“The teachings in this article are taken from my Hot Pursuit Master Class coaching course, where I help professionals like you close the gap between your greatest burning desires and your current reality.”
You know that burning feeling in your heart…
…when you want something really bad?
That aching feeling that you just can’t shake. The longing and obsessive day dreaming.
I found myself in that place almost a decade ago when I sat in my corporate day job cubicle for 9 hours a day daydreaming about leaving and building my own successful coaching, speaking, and training business. I longed to help others build a life and business they absolutely loved. I longed to help people break free from the limiting beliefs and circumstances that held them back. The longing was an all-consuming obsession.
Have you been there too?
Maybe you’re there right now…
You’re longing for a career or business that fills your heart and soul, you have a burning desire to do work you’re passionate about that serves a greater purpose, and you’re just sick and tired of trading the days and hours of your life for a lifeless career.
So you find yourself daydreaming…
…of a different life,
…a more fulfilling life,
…a happier life for you and your family.
I personally know how that feels, and I also know that these are not just daydreams or fantasies; this is your heart tugging to get your attention, telling you that there is something more for you. That you are meant to be more, do more, and have more in your life.
But then what happens?
As soon as you allow yourself to daydream a little bit, you quickly remind yourself of the reasons why it won’t be yours… it can’t be yours…
- It’s too expensive… “I don’t have that kind of money”
- The timing isn’t right… “I’m waaay too busy right now”
- It’s too difficult… “I’ve tried in the past and failed”
- There’s too many unknowns… “I’ve never done that before and I don’t know where to even start!”
Oh boy! I know all those reasons all too well!
I’ve been there too. When I’d find myself day dreaming about my dream business I’d quickly hear myself negotiating the terms of what it would take to make my dream my reality.
The dream is quickly crushed with negative self-talk.
One side of me would say, “I wish I could start my own business.” And the other side would bark back saying, “You already have a good job. It’s not that bad here.”
One would say “but this isn’t my dream,” and the other would rebuttal “But this is what you went to school for. This is a great company and the type of company you retire from.”
I’d counter with “but this isn’t my dream!” and my rational side would hit back with “You’ve never run a business before, you have no clue how to start one! Where would you get clients? How much would you charge? Besides, what would other people think if you left this job to do something else? You know they’d think you were crazy, right!?”
I was paralyzed by the back and forth.
I was ambivalent and wasn’t taking any real steps of significance.
Fast forward to almost a decade later now and being my own business owner, having coached thousands of people from all over the world, I have discovered that many people find themselves in a similar place – having the difficulty bridging the gap between their greatest burning desires and their current reality. They can’t seem to make the two come together.
I always hear the exact same line in various forms: “I really, REALLY want to do that, be it, have that.”
Well, I have some cold hard truth to share with you…
Your burning desire is not enough.
Wanting it really, REALLY bad isn’t going to cut it.
Even though most people are likely, at some level, faith-based people, they struggle to take a leap of faith and go for it. They wait for their circumstances to change instead of choosing to change their circumstances. They treat their dream like a hobby. They dabble, they play, but they never really live their dreams.
And I get it.
I did it for many years in my corporate day job. I’d start doing things on the side, but never really fully commit to it. I’d do a little here and a little there. Nothing ever took off. The only thing that “took off” was my frustration.
But the reality is…
It’s impossible to achieve dream-level results with hobby-level effort.
When it comes to living your dreams, a hobby just won’t do. You’ll never be fully satisfied. It’s like just taking one tiny bite of your own birthday cake! How fun is that?? It’s NOT!
You have to stop treating your dream like a hobby. You have to break out of the torturous cycle and start closing the gap between your greatest burning desires and your current reality.
To get started you have to come to grips with ONE thing…
You must be willing to make a sacrifice.
No matter what the sacrifice looks like for you – time, energy, money – you can’t move forward without moving forward. Change can’t happen if we are rooted in one spot. In order to live your dream, you must do something you’ve never done before.
You have to do the ACT.
Whether the act is to say “yes”, get up early, pay the fee, create the team, work on the relationship, share your vision, launch your product, go back to the drawing board, or create something new – you just have to do it.
When you act, you make the sacrifice.
And each sacrifice you make builds your belief.
When I started on my own journey, all I had was a tiny seed of belief. With every intentional sacrifice I made, I took a baby step closer to my dream. These baby steps were not only building my dream one step at a time, but they were also building ME! My belief in myself grew every step along the way.
In order to build myself and my business, I dished out tons of money, gave up sleep, vacation days, and time with friends. I value all of these things, however the return in the long run has been much greater.
I now have all those things 10x to what I had back then!
Every time you choose to move forward, you come closer to the person who was made to live your dream and fulfill your God-given purpose.
Which leads me to a CRITICAL point when deciding WHAT sacrifice you have to make…
You must know your greater purpose in life.
You can’t turn your daydreams from a hobby to a reality without the act of sacrificing, and you can’t make the sacrifice if you’re not 100% crystal clear about your purpose.
Be honest with yourself…
Do you know your purpose in life? And can you clearly articulate it?
Unfortunately many people aren’t clear on their purpose and/or they can’t clearly articulate it; and that’s why they are stuck with an unfulfilling career and a daydream.
Clarity is king.
Knowing your greater purpose in life allows you to get clarity and direction to make the RIGHT sacrifices and take the RIGHT steps forward.
Knowing your purpose also makes those sacrifices MUCH easier because you know they’re serving a bigger purpose. You actually ignite the part of you that cannot-not do it! (Yes, I know that’s a double negative, but you get what I mean!) It’s like putting the thing you cherish the most right in front of you, but not letting you have it. Of course you have to have it!
Once you know your purpose, you have to live it! There’s really no other option.
So if you want to break out the torturous cycle and start closing the gap between your greatest burning desires and your current reality, then you must find clarity on your purpose.
Since most people struggle with this, I’m going to help you uncover your purpose.
I have created a FREE 35 min audio download where I help you uncover your unique, God-given purpose on this planet, and guide you to your next step for living into that purpose.
By the end of the audio file, you’ll not only feel like a spark has been ignited inside you, you’ll see a new path forward for your life. A life where every single waking minute of the day, you are truly living in alignment with your highest and greatest good, and you are your most fulfilled and happiest.
You’ll be able to start to paint the picture of your unique vision, and believe in your heart and your soul that you are meant to live into this vision.
I want that for you, because you were not created to settle…
…you are created for greatness!
So don’t wait!
Uncover your purpose…
…make the RIGHT sacrifices…
…and start living into your greatness.
– Melissa V. West
About Melissa V. West
Melissa V. West is the founder and President of Xtreme Results, LLC – a powerful catalyst for life transformation. She encourages business professionals to rediscover their passion and empowers them to create the amazing life of their dreams. She shares this message worldwide through coaching, training, mentoring, and keynote speaking. Melissa isn’t just a business owner, but also a wife and mom. Connect with her on Twitter and Facebook.